SOLUTIONS TO SAVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP

3 solutions that can save your relationship

No matter how hard you try, you can't always avoid challenges. They are inevitable but if you recognize ahead of time what those challenges might be, you’ll have a much better chance of getting past them.

Even though every relationship has its ups and downs, successful couples have learned how to manage the bumps, work through the complex issues and keep their love life going.

Many do this by reading self-help books and articles, attending seminars, going to counselling, observing other successful couples, etcetera etcetera.... there are so many options!

Well then, let's take a look at some of these relationships issues and solutions

Relationship problem: Communication

Most if not all relationship problems stem from poor communication. You can’t communicate if you don't express what is within you_nobody (normal atleast) reads minds. You also aren't working communications when you don't listen. Common mistakes we make_You are not listening while you’re checking your phone, watching Tv, or flicking through the sports section.

Problem-solving strategies:

>Make an actual appointment with each other. Put the cell phones on vibrate, put the kids (if any) to bed and let voicemail pick up your calls.

>Learn to “communicate” without raising your voices. You go to a public spot like the park, restaurant where you’d be embarrassed if anyone saw you screaming.

>Set up some rules. Try not to interrupt until your partner is through speaking, or ban phrases such as “you always…” or “you never…”

>Use body language to show you are listening. Don’t doodle, look at your watch or pick at your nails. Nod so the other person knows you’re getting the message, and rephrase if you need to. For instance, say, “what I hear you saying is that you feel as though you take on more responsibilities even though we are both working”. If you’re right, the other can confirm.


Relationship problem: Money

Money problems can start even before the first good morning. Money issues spring for so many reasons, for example, expenses during courtship, high cost of a wedding (if married), or perhaps lazy ladies who always want to eat out_@ very expensive restaurants....  etcetera etcetera

Problem-solving strategies

>Be honest about your current financial situation. If things have gone south, continuing the same lifestyle is unrealistic.

>Don’t approach the subject in the heat of battle. Instead find a time convenient and non-threatening for both of you.

>Acknowledge that one partner may be a spender and one a saver, understand there are benefits to both, and agree to learn from each other’s tendencies.

>Don't throw blames!

>Don’t hide income or debt.

>Decide which person will be responsible for paying certain bills for example the monthly electricity bills.

>Allow each person to have independence by setting aside money to be spent at his or her discretion.

>Decide upon short-term and long term goals. It’s ok to have individual goals, but you should have family goals too.

>Talk about caring for your parents as they age and how to appropriately plan for their financial needs if needed.


Relationship Problem: Not Making Your Relationship a Priority

If you want to keep your love life going, making relationship a focal point should not end when you say and/or hear "yes". So make yours a priority.

Problem-solving strategies

>Make time for what matters!!!

>Do the things you used to do when you first started dating: show appreciation, compliment each other, contact each other through the day, and show interest in each other.

>Plan date nights. Schedule time together on the calendar just as you would any other important event in your life.

>Respect one another. Say “thank you” and “I appreciate…”  It lets your partner know that they matter


Relationship Problem: Trust

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Written by Nse Kani
Edited by Chisom Selina Kalu @ Decent Fashion Magazine